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  • Doug Belshaw 12:30 pm on April 7, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    This is a privilege I take advantage of, and every day I plead my case before myself as a judge. When the lamp has been removed from my sight, and my wife, no stranger now to my habit, has fallen silent, I examine the whole of my day and retrace my actions and words; I hide nothing from myself, pass over nothing. For why should I be afraid of any of my mistakes, when I can say: ‘Beware of doing that again, and this time I pardon you. In that discussion you spoke too aggressively: do not, after this, clash with people of no experience; those who have never learned make unwilling pupils. You were more outspoken in criticizing that man than you should have been, and so you offended, rather than improved him: in the future have regard not only for the truth of what you say but for the question whether the man you are addressing can accept the truth: a good man welcomes criticism, but the worse a man is, the fiercer his resentment of the person correcting him’?

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 8:30 am on April 7, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    You ask what is the greatest failing in you? You keep accounts badly: you rate high what you have paid out, but low what you have been paid.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 6:19 am on April 7, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    No one who looks at another man’s possessions takes pleasure in his own: for this reason we grow angry even with the gods, because someone is in front of us, forgetting how many men are behind us and what a massive load of envy follows at the back of those who envy a few. But so arrogant are humans that, however much they have received, they take offence is they might have received more.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 6:00 pm on April 1, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    Choose men who are honest, easygoing, and have self-control, the sort who will not arouse your anger and yet will tolerate it; more useful still will be men who are amenable, kind, and charming, but not to the point of flattery, for those given to anger are offended by fawning agreement: I, at any rate, had a friend who was a good man, but too quick to feel anger, and it was no more safe to flatter him than to abuse him.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 4:00 pm on April 1, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    We shall find that well-grounded doctrine of Democritus of benefit to us, in which he shows that a tranquil state of mind is only possible if we devote relatively little time to private or public affairs, or at least to those that are too great for our strength. When a man busies himself with many duties, the day never passes so happily for him that he fails to encounter some problem, arising from a person or situation, which makes his mind ripe for anger. Just as a man hurrying through the busy districts of the city must collide with many people, and will inevitably lose his footing in some places, and be held back in others, and, in others still, be splashed, so in this activity of life, with all its variety and inconstancy, many hindrances, many causes for complaint cross our path. One man cheats our hopes, another postpones them, a third dashes them; our designs do not proceed as we had planned. No man finds Fortune so compliant that she responds on each occasion to his many overtures; it follows, therefore, that when a man finds that some of his plans have fallen out contrary to his wishes, he grows impatient with men and the world, and on the slightest of pretexts becomes angry, now with a person, now with his occupation, now with where he lives, now with his luck, now with himself. And so, in order that the mind can achieve peace, it must not be tossed about, or, as I said, worn out by activity in many enterprises, or ones that are demanding and place too great a strain on its powers. It is easy to fit light burdens to our shoulders, and to move them from one side to another without their slipping, but what has been placed on us by the hands of others we find hard to support, and owning defeat, we shed our load onto the next man; even while we stand beneath the baggage, we stagger, finding ourselves unequal to the burden.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 2:00 pm on April 1, 2020 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: anger, revenge,   

    Revenge is an admission of pain; a mind that is bowed by injury is not a great mind. The man who has done the injury is either stronger than you or weaker: if he is weaker, spare him, if stronger, spare yourself.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 12:00 pm on April 1, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    Just as physical robustness and careful attention to health are of no benefit against plague (for it attacks the weak and the strong without discrimination), so men of a calm and relaxed nature are as much at risk from anger as those who are more excitable, and the more it causes a change in these, the more it brings shame and danger upon them.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 10:00 am on April 1, 2020 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: anger, fury,   

    So that no one may be deceived into supposing that there is any time, any place where anger will be of benefit, its unbridled and deranged madness must be revealed, and it must have restored to it the equipment that is its very own – the horse of torture, the cord, the gaol, the cross, the fires that encircle live bodies buried in the ground, the hook that drags along corpses as well, the different kinds of chains and of punishments, the tearing of limbs, branding of the forehead, the pits where monstrous beasts prowl: let anger be set in the midst of these implements, uttering a terrible and horrible shriek, more loathsome than all these instruments that let it vent its fury.

    Seneca, ‘On Anger’

     
  • Doug Belshaw 6:30 pm on March 12, 2020 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: anger, , disappointment, , grief,   

    Grief and disappointment give rise to anger, anger to envy, envy to malice, malice to grief again, till the whole circle be completed.

    David Hume

     
  • Doug Belshaw 8:15 am on February 21, 2020 Permalink | Reply
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    Our anger and annoyance are more detrimental to us than the things themselves which anger or annoy us.

    Marcus Aurelius

     
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